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Being unapologetically you is a great place to start when it comes to standing out, but it can take a while to get there.
I was someone who always wanted to fit in, but I was never enough for any group; I was too awkward to be ‘cool’, too ‘street’ to be a ‘nerd’ too ‘ambitious/ smart’ to be a ‘layabout’, too ‘white’ to fit in with the ‘black’ crew and too ‘black’ to roll deep with the ‘white’ girls. My desire to fit in was exhausting and at many times really upsetting. While grown up I’ve found that not fitting in has remained the same, from my career in finance, to becoming a YouTuber and blogger, I still found that there wasn’t really a place I could ‘slot’ into, or crew I could join. But rather than that being something I found a challenge it’s something that has been rocket fuel to propelling me to where I have always wanted to be in life, I’ve realised that staying in my lane has truly helped me, so I’ve shared 3 ways I’ve made it work.
1. Self Reflection
Taking a good hard look at myself and identifying my flaws, strengths, unique idiosyncrasies, has been a great place to start to know what my lane is. If you ever saw these little things about you as problems it might be time to flip the script and see these as your gift.
2. Define Your Journey
Often in life our path or lane had been defined by others, parents, school or society. I’ve found that over and over I have to re-define and remind myself of MY journey and the way I want to go. Avoiding the distraction of opinion, I keep my eye on my lane. It centres and forces me to focus eventually leading me to reach the end goal I determine in the beginning for myself
3. Standing Out, To Whom?
A question worth asking yourself, who’s opinion really matters to you? Who do you really want to see the best of you? Who do you actually have to impress? Asking myself these cold hard questions had a great impact on me because I realised the ‘who’s’ were very few. Keeping this in mind can release a weight off you shoulder and allow you to really stay in your own lane and stand out to those that actually matter.
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